Nthabiseng bares it all after leaving alone on Temptation Island SA

While many of the couples left Temptation Island in the arms of their lovers after the final bonfire, Nthabiseng is the only person this season who will be leaving the island alone. This comes after she made the bold declaration at the final bonfire session that she would be leaving the experience as a single woman, while her ex-boyfriend MJ looked happy to be moving on with one of the singles from his villa, Bontle.

Nthabiseng and MJ looked to be one of the stronger couples in the first few days of the show. In fact, even on the very first episode, MJ and Nthabi had declared themselves as the couple of the entire show, even comparing themselves to Beyoncé and Jay-Z.

However, unlike the Knowles-Carters, MJ and Nthabi’s love affair wasn’t able to survive infidelity. Instead of a “Becky with the nice hair” it was “Bontle with the nice hair’ who proved to be the force that ended up breaking the young lovers apart.

We spoke to Nthabi to find out how she was coping with life as a single woman following an unforgettable experience on Temptation Island South Africa.

How are you feeling?

It is the morning after the bonfire, and I’m feeling relieved. I get to go home and I get to think about a lot of things, so that’s good. I’m coming to terms with my decisions, which is leaving the island alone. There are a lot of emotions running through my mind and I just can’t wait to get home and think about what has happened and my way forward. 

Do you feel as if you’ve made the right decision by leaving MJ?

Yes, I do feel like I’ve made the right decision. I feel like MJ and I have to have a very serious talk because I still need some answers and reasons behind a lot of actions. And I guess I need to explain a lot to him. 

What would you want to clear up with him?

I feel like he feels as if I shared some intimate moments with other people in the villa. I shared some of the things we usually keep between us with other guys and I’m sure that disappointed him. I just want him to understand where that comes from.

MJ looks quite happy to have moved on with Bontle. Do you think he made the right call?

I respect his decision if that’s what he wants to do then, it is what it is. There’s nothing I can say about it. I hope he finds happiness, I hope she takes really good care of him. I wish him all the best for sure!

Do you think there will be any animosity between the two of you going forward?

No, no animosity. Not from my side. I feel at peace with everything right now. I feel like I saw it coming and yeah, I’m good. 

What was the lowest point for you on Temptation Island?

The lowest point for me was definitely seeing MJ telling someone else that he loves her. That’s not what you want to see or hear from your own partner and that broke me down. I’ve had a very emotional journey and now I’m just looking forward to rebuilding and restarting my life. Right now, my focus is just on me.

I want to grow from this experience. I have learned a lot from this experience and I’ve learned a lot about other people and I just want to learn to trust again. I feel like I have been betrayed and it’s going to take me a while to trust people and be able to just open myself up to another person. It’s all growth from here and I’m willing to learn a lot more about myself. 

Are you interested in exploring anything with anyone who you got close with in the villa?

I have made connections with people on the island and I see myself talking to both of them, but I don’t promise to take it further than friendship. I’ll cross that bridge when I get there and I’ll make those kinds of decisions when I am ready.

What was the highlight of your time on Temptation Island?

Learning new friends, getting out of my comfort zone and just making it until the end.

What did you learn about yourself from your time on the Island?

I have learned a lot about myself and how I conduct myself in relationships. I realised that I tend to put my partner ahead of myself, and I tend to take care of them as a higher priority. I sometimes forget that I am my own individual person and that sometimes I need support and I need to keep myself going. So I’m going to work on myself so that when I meet someone I can keep my individuality within the relationship so that it can be healthy. 

Are you disappointed in how MJ acted on Temptation Island?

Yes, I am very disappointed in him. I had faith that he was going to behave a certain way and that I could trust him and that he was going to put our relationship first. I thought he would consider my feelings and that he wouldn’t humiliate me and that he would always make sure I’m okay. But now I feel like he always does what feels right to him. I mean he has every right to put himself first but I was so considerate of his feelings, I had so much respect for him and myself and our relationship, but I feel like there was no reciprocation there.

How do you feel ahead of the upcoming reunion? What are you expecting?

I mean right now I don’t know what to expect, because I don’t know! I just don’t. I have to mentally prepare myself for the reunion because I feel like I’m going to have to face a lot of the people I’ve been trying to avoid, but I’ll cross that bridge when I get there.

See how the reunion went down – it’s now streaming on Showmax.